Virtual Void: The Disconnect Inherent In Online Connections

Ironically, the very thing we turn to for increased connectivity with others is proving to be the biggest disconnection point in our lives. Not only are we distracting ourselves from face-to-face interactions, but the virtual relationships we’re prioritizing are often lacking in the most important connection point of all – the intimacy of in-person warmth and sincerity.

To detect the presence or extent of your virtual void, ask yourself:

• What am I doing online?

• How am I connecting with others?

• What is the content of that connection?

• Would I be willing for your spouse or members of my family to view all of my online activities and content?

• Relationships are formed through time – what relationships do I have online?

• What emotional needs are being met through these online relationships?

• How would I feel if I were unable to connect online for a day? A week? A month?

• How many non-family online relationships do I maintain?

• Of those relationships, how many do I keep strictly online – meaning I don’t talk or visit but only connect online?

• Are there any online relationships that pose a threat or provide competition to your real-life relationships?

• Am I willing, within the next week, to modify, limit, or sever any online relationship or activity that poses such a threat?

• If so, what is my step-by-step action plan for doing that?

• If I'm not willing, what is holding me back? Be specific. Am I willing to seek professional help to overcome this barrier?